• anon@lemm.ee
      17·
      25 days ago

      you may have yourself checked, you may be a dork, which is a nerd without marketable abilities

        • jdeath@lemm.ee
          1·
          23 days ago

          take stuff apart and put it back together. install obscure operating systems. build a network and servers for just yourself. put multiple operating systems on the same computer. repair a broken laptop or phone. just fun things like that

          • ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
            1·
            22 days ago

            Any pointers how to get into FreeBSD? I might need that for my game engine, especially as two of the main three consoles nowadays use some heavily modified versions of it (even if unfortunately I have to provide them as closed-source addons to the engine, since neither Sony nor Nintendo don’t like open sourcing their stuff).

    • Barbarian@sh.itjust.works
      10·
      27 days ago

      But seriously, are there really women who talk about men in those terms?

      Yes. Personally, I see it as the mirror image of the “tradwife” thing where toxic men see their partner as a subservient maid. Seeing men as primarily an income source comes from a similar place imho.

      • sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip
        4·
        26 days ago

        Yep, they’ve been called ‘gold diggers’, for quite a while now.

        There is still a huge portion of American women across the political spectrum, across wealth classes, across religious or irreligious beliefs, who ultimately have a huge part of what they want in a partner be ‘how much stuff can he buy me’, who will bully or shame or guilt trip or emasculate or outright violently abuse their male partner, regardless of how hypocritical this is with their other espoused beliefs, to get them to pay for things for them or cover their debts.

        Just get on tiktok or instagram, you basically can’t miss it.

        Its more than just the opposite number of conservative tradwives. There are plenty of self described liberal or leftist, feminists or social activists of one kind or another that ultimately still want their male partners to provide far more for them than they provide for their partner.

    • xttweaponttx@sh.itjust.works
      2·
      25 days ago

      Idahoan here - yeah coming from a fairly mormon-laden family tree (and community), it’s pretty common around here. And like others said it typically goes both ways - the guys treat it like the gals are helpless without a man to carry the income. This place is fucking backwards and culturally prehistoric.

      Don’t even get me started on the bigotry & maltreatment towards trans/gay folks. If there were a progress bar for moving toward healthy / compassionate behavior towards those groups this place would be at fucking 0%, genuinely. Obscenely disrespectful.

    • fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.comEnglish
      2·
      27 days ago

      You have never opened the box of “Female Dating Strategy”. Welcome to the world of “low value males”

      • Got_Bent@lemmy.world
        4·
        27 days ago

        Just looked through some of that stuff. Holy hell, it would be easier to be seen as without sin through the eyes of an angry old testament God than it would be to be seen as worthy of dating from that crowd. And that’s fine, because I would want less than zero to do with it.

        (Assuming it’s real. Who knows? Could be a bunch of neckbeards cosplaying, but if I’ve learned anything in life, it’s that there are shitty shitty men in this world, and that there are equally shitty shitty women in this world)

    • VeganPizza69 Ⓥ@lemmy.world
      31·
      27 days ago

      The “trad wives” (traditionalist / paleoconservative middle class women who believe that their religion is good for women) are looking for a husband in the traditional sense, a type of business owner / patriarch who owns them and provides for them; see: husbandry. That’s so that they can produce a lot of offspring while pretending that raising kids in near or full homeschooling is a good thing and she’s very successful (culturally).

      They’re the homologues of incels and traditionalist bros who want to be rich so that they maintain some informal harem. And they deserve each other.

    • psmgx@lemmy.world
      1·
      27 days ago

      Every gold digger ever. Books about it, subreddits. You been living under a rock? Literally, good how to marry a rich man, and there will be digital or printed guidebooks

    • andrew_bidlaw@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      1·
      27 days ago

      Yeah, and we shouldn’t suppose women can’t degrade as much as men, that’s unfair. r/femaledatingstrategy had an overblown fame for being a femcel den before it got banned, you can read on them in the media. But you can discover more than that on chan-boards, as they are probably the origin of a lingvo natural to this discourse. Just like with in incels, there’s a typology of women and men adapted to biological and social context a typical ciswoman is in.

      As for IRL, I’ve heard such terms only as a joke, but that means there’s some penetration into higher net.

  • Fugtig Fisk@feddit.dk
    8·
    27 days ago

    Dear linux users. Is it a red flag if she is active in a Catholic Dating group?

    Edit:. and that she is still on reddit?

  • rustydrd@sh.itjust.works
    3·
    27 days ago

    Nerds fix stuff around the house? Girl, I couldn’t even repair that plumbing if I wanted to. This is a job for a professional.

    • PlexSheep@infosec.pub
      2·
      26 days ago

      Let’s not monopolize the word nerds for us computer nerds. There are also engineering nerds for example, the guys that have 2 3d printers, 3 CNC machines, and a few industrial robot arms in their garage so that they can build the tiniest bike ever.

      Nerds of all sciences unite!

    • Skullgrid@lemmy.world
      2·
      27 days ago

      Nerd here that was EXTREMELY disappointed in losing the opportunity to own a house.

      I wanted to get into the home electronics/plumbing stuff. Although to be honest, I am less keen on the plumbing since it’s a wet mess.

    • Lupec@lemm.ee
      1·
      27 days ago

      It says a lot that when I read that my first thought was “oh so like keeping the self hosted services running and whatnot” for a second 😅

      • abbadon420@lemm.ee
        0·
        26 days ago

        It could be even worse. Some needs enjoy to learn things, anything. Doesn’t,t matter if it’s NixOs or plastering.

        • zalgotext@sh.itjust.works
          1·
          26 days ago

          This is me. Software developer by day, endless diyer and hobby starter by night (at least on nights when I’m not dissociating on the couch)

  • EmperorHenry@discuss.tchncs.de
    3·
    26 days ago

    is it a red-flag if your man uses whitelisting antivirus on windows?..after de-bloating it of course.

    What about if he trolls scammers with the goal of ruining their operation?

    • 0x4E4F@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
      5·
      26 days ago

      No, apparently, just using Linux MIGHT be a red flag…

      But, on the other hand, some people also say that Linux nerds are cash cows, so they can’t be that bad I suppose 🤷.

      • LordPassionFruit@lemm.ee
        4·
        26 days ago

        I grew up Catholic, and (at least here, Catholicism is a really big place) it’s not so much “he has money” as it is “he will bring stability.”

        The second commenter’s “cash cow” comment is a bit of an outlier in my experience, because usually the highlights of dating a nerd are more akin to the second comment. They’ll be an active father and attentive husband, and they’re less likely to cheat (in their view). I’ve also heard things like this about D&D/Warhammer players, because they use their imagination alot (making them good at entertaining children) and the hobbies take a lot of focus (meaning they’ll be willing and able to tackle problems that arise).

        Older catholics are used to men whose only role in the family is “produce baby and produce money”, so a lot of modern dating advice is in the guise of “make sure he’s a good man before you marry him”

      • 0x4E4F@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
        2·
        26 days ago

        Because most people nowadays see everything as a transaction, including “love”. You really can’t expect anything else in a society that sees everything through the prism of money.

        • WldFyre@lemm.ee
          1·
          26 days ago

          But more so that Catholics and other fundamentalists expect the man to be the provider, and largely base the worth of the man on how much money he makes. If you think that’s gross and demeaning, then don’t fucking date Catholics lol

          • 0x4E4F@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
            11·
            26 days ago

            Really? I thought Catholicism was about Jesus, sharing, caring, love… guess I was wrong… who would have thought that a religion that is allegedly supposed to spread piece and love, would be all about money, huh 🤔.

            • WldFyre@lemm.ee
              1·
              23 days ago

              When has Catholicism never been about money? They literally have codified paying your way into heaven for nearly 2000 years with “indulgences” lol

              It’s like one of the most blatant examples of a corrupt religion being used to control and siphon money from people, it has one of the most well documented, terrible histories.

        • Burn_The_Right@lemmy.world
          1·
          26 days ago

          Because most people nowadays see everything as a transaction

          Because most people conservatives nowadays see everything as a transaction

          FTFY

            • Burn_The_Right@lemmy.world
              3·
              26 days ago

              Define “liberal”. Many liberals these days are conservative rather than progressive, so I won’t disagree with your statement.

              Conservatives are not able to experience empathy for anyone outside of their in-group, so they tend to see every interaction with “others” as transactional.

              Conservatism is a vile plague of inhumanity, oppression and death and should be treated as such. It is due for a cure.

              • Jarix@lemmy.world
                0·
                26 days ago

                Conservatism is a vile plague of inhumanity, oppression and death and should be treated as such. It is due for a cure.

                And yet they seem to be the majority, or close to it. So one has to ask, why is that so many people turn to it. It has to give them value. And is that value real or perceived.

                For some it is very real, usually the exceptionally wealthy. Which means conservatism is profitable.

                Not having empathy for anyone outside of your in group would make it easy to dismiss or justify the fact that the first rule of capitalism is find a weakness and exploit it

                • 0x4E4F@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
                  1·
                  26 days ago

                  Conservativism and Capitalism are closely tied. They both profit from people’s weaknesses and flaws.

    • sailingbythelee@lemmy.world
      01·
      26 days ago

      These girls are old school. You make the money, they pump out the children. They don’t believe in birth control or abortion, so if you want to maximize your reproductive fitness, you could do worse than a Catholic girl.

  • thedirtyknapkin@lemmy.world
    1·
    27 days ago

    anyone who picks at every little thing a partner or potential partner does by requiring the Internet to approve it is toxic as hell. asking the Internet if a behavior that doesn’t effect you is a red flag is a massive red flag.

    • beirdobaggins@lemmy.world
      1·
      27 days ago

      TBF, if a potential partner is super excited about something you never heard of, looking into it is a good thing.

      Conservatives, and other assholes, are good about hiding their crazy behind seemingly innocent things, like pepe the frog.