First of I run linux on my personal machine.
Second, I shut down my work machine at the end of the day and if there is an update - let it update. The result? Not a single problem with windows updates in years! Strange, I know.
Sidenote: I always thought people were partially making fun of windows updates because you have to reboot all the time. I have to log out to switch from integrated to dedicated graphics in Linux and pretty much 90% of all updates require a reboot. And to conserve battery I have to shut down the laptop anyway, since hibernation is but a dream. But whatever, it’s not a competition.
Your last statement stands out to me. Have you considered that it’s the way you interact with whoever you’re interested in? Rather than your looks? Are you nervous, self-conscious, whatever? I’m asking because you keep insisting that your interested in individuals out of your league. That thought would make me nervous. And on the flip side self-consciousness or awkwardness or nervousness or whatever is not very attractive. Socially it’s more acceptable to rejected someone based on looks though.