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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • Michigan lakes area. It is sometimes really windy and really cold for long periods of time. The kind of climate where we get ice in the inside of our windows. Any mechanics needed to have a mechanical doorbell would also let in cold air.

    Edit: apparently there are some that have mechanics that pass through the wall that are similar to a door handle and can be sealed up pretty well. Very cool!











  • it’s hard to be brave enough to approach new people

    I was talking to my wife yesterday about how I gained social skills as an adult, and part of it was making a deliberate effort to start conversations with at least a few strangers everyday. Not hold a conversation, merely start one. Doing this for a while helps you get comfortable making chit chat and feeling out if it’s worth continuing a conversation, and breaks down the idea that every conversation has to be meaningful.

    Not sure if this helps you, but it really helped me.

    As for where to go, look for gatherings like flea markets, car shows, street fairs, anything. Even if you don’t care about the topic, be there for the people, and keep an open, curious mind. Maybe even make a game out of it, like the meow game, or some other goofy phrase, or try to ask a variety of people the same question. Or bring something that is a conversation starter like a dog, or juggling balls, or something small related to your furry hobby. The idea is to be around people in a mode that makes interaction easy.

    Meeting people is just the first part though. Moving on to friendship obviously takes more work and time.




  • Lots of good advice in this thread already, but I want to add a few details:

    • that loose hoodie would be even better if the pockets zip up. Losing important items on a plane sucks. Also the pockets work great as a security checkpoint stash: remove your metal and empty your pants pockets all into your sweatshirt pockets, zip them, remove and put in the bin. On the other side you put it back on and have everything easily available.
    • if you can’t find a zippable hoodie, go with a non-hoodie with zip pockets and a beanie that you can pull down over your eyes.
    • for sleep aids, it’s a good idea to wait until after the first meal, which is usually within the first two hours of the flight, but you can ask and make sure.
    • make sure your headphones have a plug, not just Bluetooth. The in-flight entertainment usually does not work with only Bluetooth, though some do.