My thoughts is that it’s a simple situation really. If they’re harassing or assaulting people, the women will call the cops or something, simple situation and get the guy arrested. If he’s not doing anything, it’s nothing harmful. Apparently that’s not a solid enough answer. What should I have said?

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    Why are conservatives so worried about hypothetical scenarios involving gendering re: restrooms?

    It’s come up exactly zero times ever in my entire lifespan, and I’m in my mid 40s now and have been in hundreds, if not thousands, of public restrooms.

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      I am a straight guy and I have used a woman’s restroom.

      But only in the context that it was a single restroom and the men’s was occupied. I just unilaterally executed my male privilege and declared that the woman’s restroom was unisex for the time period that I needed it.

      There was nobody else in the room and if there had been first the door would have been locked or I would have been absolutely mortified.

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        This was super common in college dorms as well. The etiquette was that if your hookup or friend was using the bathroom on your floor you were supposed to stand outside and let people know about it. You know, informed consent and all. Absolutely zero people ever gave a shit.

        The entire fear kind of makes me assume that all conservatives are just opportunistic rapists who are kept in check my the thinnest veneer of social order.

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          Are single-sex dorms a thing over there? Ours were always mixed with unisex bathrooms - stalls for everyone.

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            They tended to be segregated by floor at that time. So you’d have a men’s or women’s room on every other floor. There were also still a few women’s only dorms, but my experience with those was basically the same. Nobody is leaving the building just to take a piss.

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        The amount of times I as a straight cis man have had to go in the women’s room for a changing table for my child is unacceptable

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      I have actually used a restroom many times when someone of the “wrong” gender was cleaning it. It turns out that person did not like try to get an angle to scope out my junk, or whatever. If someone did that, I would pretty much react exactly the same regardless of their gender. I’d be like “bro what the fuck no free previews.”

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      Literally the only times I have EVER seen it was when I was at concert and a woman came in and exclaimed that the line was too long for the women’s. I have never once seen a man go into a womens room

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        I have seen it in a few instances where the baby changing facilities were only in the women’s bathroom, and a father needed to access them. I wish that bathroom discourse could involve structural inequities like this, but the bigots are overly concerned about what is in people’s pants

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          … Am I the only one who’s used the wrong one just because that’s how little attention I’m paying?