• SSJMarx@lemm.ee
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    7 days ago

    Patriarchy absolutely teaches us that. It’s part of enforcing heteronormativity in men - if you find another man attractive or beautiful, you cannot express that without being accused of being gay, and this seeps into our self conception where not only do we have trouble viewing ourselves as capable of being beautiful, but we aggressively police men and boys around us who we perceive to be seeking beauty themselves.

    There’s been movement on this in the younger generation, but it’s still the hegemonic attitude.

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      6 days ago

      Bullshit. That’s one tiny aspect of it - men unable to support other men. The vast majority of the problem of men seeing themselves as disgusting is feminsm. “All men are potential rapists” is a disgusting and extremely prevalent ideology. All men are trash, all men are pigs, you see women say these things all the time and it’s just accepted.

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        6 days ago

        “All men are potential rapists” is a disgusting and extremely prevalent ideology

        This is not a prevalent ideology. I’m sure some edgy teens on tumblr have expressed this opinion, but what you think is feminism is actually a phantom you have constructed in your mind.

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          6 days ago

          I’m sure that even if I found literally a thousand examples you’d continue to claim “well that’s not REAL feminism”.

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            6 days ago

            And I’m sure that if you actually engaged with feminism in good faith instead of blindly dismissing it off of out of context clips from “feminist OWNED” compilations, you would revise your opinion on it.