I’m pretty sure that’s just social anxiety and not being an introvert.
Yep. I met extroverts who are absolutely terrified at standing up for themselves.
Damn, I never considered that combination before. Being extroverted with social anxiety would be awful.
I feel like i am the person and i can confirm it is absolute hell, there is a constant need to have interesting conversations with new people but starting them is basically my worst fear
Could just mean smaller friend groups as well. I conceptualize the major difference as introverts recharge by being alone and extroverts recharge by being around people. There was some recent research that disputed the concept of introverts and extroverts altogether, noting that when introverts became more regularly connected to people, their mental health improved. Introversion might just be the sum of our fears about connection that keep us from living a fuller life, with avoidance taking the role of an unhealthy coping mechanism for being unwilling to face our social fears. I say THAT because a lot of research has come to the conclusion that we are wired for connection and that the presence of close relationships is a strong predictor of the length of our life.
I also say this as someone with raging social anxiety, it sucks and I just get overwhelmed within a couple hours.
Introverts don’t not want social connection. They just prefer a smaller number of deeper connections. “You’re not people” is a common sentiment from introverts to their closest friends and family. Most introverts still have and enjoy social connection. They just prefer it in an intimate or chill setting to large groups.
I agree with most/all of this, it just seems like the question is, do they prefer those chill settings because of the increased intimacy OR the safety and relative lack of chaos. Increased positive experiences or decreased aversion? By aversion, I mean, are there sensory issues with crowds? feelings of overwhelm? more social anxiety at the uncertain? etc.
In other words, would introverts who had stronger social skills and newly managed social anxiety symptoms still make the same choices? I think the answer is a pretty solid “I/We don’t know” but at least people are working on finding out!
Hm… I’ve always been introverted. However as a teen I’ve gone to high school parties with my friends, gotten drunk, smoked weed, hung out with friends, talked to girls… I’ve gone to night clubs, bars, theaters, and restaurants… the way I see it is if I’m with a crowd of people I personally know, I’ve grown up with, or simply my family members, I don’t feel introverted. My energy is focused on them not everyone else outside of my crowd. But put me into an environment where I don’t know a single person and I’m expected to have dialogue with them? Eh… that’s a different story. That environment will definitely spend away my mental energy - UNLESS we’re all having a conversation on a subject I can definitely relate to. If it’s an enjoyable dialogue, then I walk out of that environment feeling just fine.
a lot of research has come to the conclusion that we are wired for connection and that the presence of close relationships is a strong predictor of the length of our life.
Well I gotta restructure my retirement funds for some short but quality time
Could be because someone is introverted as well, and just can’t be bothered to deal and talk to the waiter to sort the issue out.
That’s me. I’ll also eat pretty much anything, so it’s really not a big deal.
My wife won’t do it because of anxiety, though.
I don’t mind that at most restaurants where all the ingredients are pretty much the same. Chinese restaurants, Mexican restaurants, sure.
But breakfast restaurants - that’s my line in the sand. I refuse to have my eggs any differently.
Good point. About the only way I can stomach eggs is being scrambled. Any other way and it becomes a texture/smell issue.
Otherwise ya, I’d be ok if restaurants just had a random ‘button’
That’s less of introvertedness and more a lackadaisical attitude
Yeah, there’s definitely a hassle vs reward calculus that quickly gets figured. Usually the hassle side of the equation is a little too high unless its something that can be quickly and easily fixed. Like if they forgot something it’s very easy to just go “oh, and can I please get …” which usually immediately reminds them and they go grab it.
Or if the food got royally fucked then engagement can become worth it, even over something harder to fix. Like, if my steak is well done and I ordered med rare, I kinda want either a new steak or a comped meal.
Yeah I suppose there is a line between ignoring the mistake and having to tell the waiter what the issue is, I mean especially with meat.
Leaves 22% tip. Never goes within 500’ of establishment again.
Anxiety, not introversion.
That’s social anxiety btw.
Introvert does not mean anti-social or social anxiety.
True, but there is a lot of overlap. You could say that the social anxiety is what makes some people an introvert, since they just exhaust themselves from too much worrying.
Still though. People ought to stop equating the two.
For me it’s because I’m hungry AF and just don’t want to wait for them to fix it. Not being that picky helps.
I’m the same. Like I like plane food. Because, whatever man, someone brought me a little parcel of food to eat. I’m stoked.
Wait but hear me out. Imagine big genius scenario where you intentionally order something else counting on waitress getting it wrong so you end up getting exactly what you [secretly] wanted. Outsmarted outsmarting
Most of the time i don’t even know what i want so any food is good
Same, like no need to get angry on my behalf. I am literally happy with this too
False. I am definitely an introvert but if I’m going to pay for it, I’m going to get what I asked for.
Now that you mention it I think Ultron was just embarrassed they showed up before he was ready and was too shy to ask them to leave, his cover lie was full of holes.
“But I know no matter what the waitress brings, I should drink it and always be full. Yeah, my cup it will always be full.” -John Popper, Blues Traveler Song: Run Around
I can relate. Most of the time this means a lot of regrets. But sometimes it leads to welcome discoveries.
That… doesn’t sound right. I don’t think that’s associated with introvertism/introversion. I’m an introvert, I’ll be damned if someone hands me food that was not ordered by me and me not say something. Especially if I’m craving a specific food before I even show up to the restaurant.
