• metaStatic@kbin.earth
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      5 months ago

      coffee instead of a free dinner? put that on your profile and see how many hits you get. I’ll give you a hint, it starts with a decimal place.

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        5 months ago

        If you’re not getting a date, I guarantee you, the word “coffee” in your profile is not the reason.

      • Stupidmanager@lemmy.world
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        5 months ago

        I’m no golden rule and I assure you, coffee date is on my profile. 1-2 dates a week. I’ve also had coffee… then some lunch… then dinner. All about connecting and not being a dumbass. No one wants to be trapped on a date that isn’t working, coffee or even just breakfast, is the best option.

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        5 months ago

        Such a sad state of dating. You think it would start with interest in the person rather than interest in a meal.

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        I’ve always done coffee for first dates, from dating apps, or otherwise. It’s a great, relaxed atmosphere for getting to know someone. You can go for a walk, or chill in the cafe, then, if things are going well, and you both want to go further, you can get a meal after. The last woman I did this with, five years ago, is now my fiancée

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        Women worth dating tend to find coffee much more appealing as a first date than an expensive meal.

        Maybe you just have a hard time identifying the women worth dating? Many people do.