When correcting error with expressions of anger, it helps to name/define the behavior or idea you wish to condition against, to demonstrate why it hurt you or is otherwise personal, to do so proportionately, then to stop being angry quickly after they apologize/acquiesce.
You didn’t read or understand what I wrote at all, did you? I have no problem communicating calmly even when very upset. The problem is there are a lot of people who will keep fucking up until someone yells at them, and suddenly, now their bullshit has been called out, they can do things the right way for a while with no further prompting or seemingly any extra effort. Shit that doesn’t fly in dangerous environments, for starters.
I get more worked up for having to yell at anyone than I do with whatever the original issue was; Unless lives are in danger: that gets me pretty worked up.
When correcting error with expressions of anger, it helps to name/define the behavior or idea you wish to condition against, to demonstrate why it hurt you or is otherwise personal, to do so proportionately, then to stop being angry quickly after they apologize/acquiesce.
You didn’t read or understand what I wrote at all, did you? I have no problem communicating calmly even when very upset. The problem is there are a lot of people who will keep fucking up until someone yells at them, and suddenly, now their bullshit has been called out, they can do things the right way for a while with no further prompting or seemingly any extra effort. Shit that doesn’t fly in dangerous environments, for starters.
I get more worked up for having to yell at anyone than I do with whatever the original issue was; Unless lives are in danger: that gets me pretty worked up.
Hey hey, I’m not the same commenter from before. Also I was agreeing not disagreeing. Just wanted to offer useful tips, that’s all.