“Take responsibility for yourself.” “Be accountable.” “Learn to accept things you can’t control.” “Self pity gets you nowhere.”

These are all nongendered ways of saying your mental health is your own responsibility. Or, simply repeat to yourself your own observation, “If I’m feeling bad but force myself to do something, I usually feel better.” You were already on the right track friend. Just realize gender has absolutely nothing to do with the concept and counter thoughts that tell you otherwise.