TehBamski@lemmy.world to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish · 1 day agoWhat's the best psychology trick you know?message-squaremessage-square87fedilinkarrow-up1104arrow-down15
arrow-up199arrow-down1message-squareWhat's the best psychology trick you know?TehBamski@lemmy.world to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish · 1 day agomessage-square87fedilink
minus-squareXavienth@lemmygrad.mllinkfedilinkarrow-up5·1 day agoIn an argument, never use “you”. No accusations. Keep a calm, relaxed tone of voice. Even if they don’t concede, they will eventually apologize and reconsider their position, but it may take a while after the conversation ended. “I told you you shouldn’t have bought that.” “I didn’t think that purchase was necessary.” “You upset me.” “I was made to feel upset.”
minus-squareJustinTheGM@ttrpg.networklinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up9·23 hours agoYou don’t even have to passive voice it - a simple “I felt upset” is fully valid without assigning blame.
minus-squarecomfy@lemmy.mllinkfedilinkarrow-up3arrow-down1·23 hours agoAlso, at least where I live, it’s much more casual and less sterile and stilted than the verbose “I was made to feel upset”.
In an argument, never use “you”. No accusations. Keep a calm, relaxed tone of voice. Even if they don’t concede, they will eventually apologize and reconsider their position, but it may take a while after the conversation ended.
“I told you you shouldn’t have bought that.”“I didn’t think that purchase was necessary.”
“You upset me.”“I was made to feel upset.”
You don’t even have to passive voice it - a simple “I felt upset” is fully valid without assigning blame.
Also, at least where I live, it’s much more casual and less sterile and stilted than the verbose “I was made to feel upset”.